时间：2019年09月12日 Source: jajshop.com Time: September 12, 2019
800 words after reading "Five Languages of Love":
To be honest, I was about to turn the book around casually at first. I thought it would be more praise, encouragement, more positive words, etc., but after reading it, I found it quite rewarding. .
I personally prefer to watch some short-lived parents, like watching emotional programs, listening to other people's stories, drawing lessons from my own life, and not repeating the same mistakes. Despite this, I feel that life is still a place where I live. The atmosphere at home can be tense at times. How on earth can a love last? This requires us to keep learning.
Dr. Chapman's book "The Five Languages of Love" was a little resonating and inspired.
Dr. Gary Chapman, a world-renowned expert in marriage counseling, has more than 30 years of experience in marriage counselling, helping to change the family life of millions of people. His outstanding contribution was to discover that everyone has their own emotional language, even husbands and wives, mothers and daughters. His work is to help people find out which emotional language they use, and teach them how to use these seemingly ordinary languages correctly. His masterpiece, The Five Languages of Love, has consistently ranked on the New York Times' best-seller list.
The essence of love is the spirit of giving. The five love languages elaborated in the book carefully teach how to give in the way the other person likes, not blindly. Love is also companionship, respecting the feelings of the other party, and love is the sacrifice and change made for the other party, making adjustments to oneself. If we get to know ourselves well, take the time to understand each other, break the old stereotypes, deal with some bad emotions, review our lives and our marriage, find and discover the love words of both parties and learn the language of love How to fill up your 'love box', and have the ability to love well, in a way that the other party can accept and love; slowly try during the learning, and learn the different love languages spoken by both parties, and then Practice and execute; you will definitely get a steady happiness.
Many of the five languages of love explained in the book may be principles we already know.
For example, one or two of the language of love: 'affirmative words' and 'meticulous moments'-meticulous conversation, meticulous activities, sharing together. The reason that makes the two sides quarrel with each other and get angry on weekdays is often the difference of opinions about life chores. We know but don't necessarily do well, or we can't do it properly; because our other half is very likely to 'speak' a different 'love language' from us. Through understanding and learning, if we find that we speak the same language of love, it is a good thing. We hope that how the other side treats ourselves, how we can treat each other, and even find out the unique dialects of different love in the same language of love. Fill the 'love boxes' on both sides. The language of love may also be 'a second language we are not familiar with outside of our mother tongue', because of love, we have to learn that language seriously.
The language of love may also be simple and easy to learn, such as the third language of love: 'Accept gifts.' And for some partners: holding hands, hugging, kissing, and other physical contact are the main ways of their emotional communication, their main love words, and they feel safe in the love of their spouses. The fifth language of love: the importance of 'physical contact' is a subject that has been frequently studied in the early days. Just like the book's example of touching and embracing a baby's healthy growth for emotional development. Therefore, a gentle kiss or hug before going out, holding hands and walking or shopping together, crossing the road, snuggling their heads on the other side while lying on the sofa and watching TV at night, etc., these are all a kind of communication of love. In the book, Dr. Chapman lists real examples (specific and vivid) of the life he has accepted, and then analyzes them carefully to give detailed suggestions, and even uses interesting mini-games to gradually help How do you do it slowly and better? In this way, let both parties feel happy and enjoy.
Although love is not the answer to all questions, choosing to love can create a safe atmosphere for loved ones, have a sense of security and belonging to each other, and even give each other the realization of self-worth; a home with love is a warm and warm harbor for partners.
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